To say too often “sorry” is not good. Abused, the word loses its meaning. But if you are a person who has no problem with apologizing, when these apologies are the mostthis – as Mark Murray writes in the “Forbes” magazine – this is a sign of emotional intelligence.
2. You question yourself/yourself
At first glance, this does not seem to be the best feature. After all, the key to success is confidence. But there is a difference between destructive undermining your choices and activities and self -reflection. And it's about the latter. Justin Barro in the article for Inc. convinces that it is worth working on your emotional intelligence. How? For example, asking yourself whether a given thing should really be articulated. This should not cause the fact that we will start to doubt ourselves. On the contrary – it should increase our self -awareness.
3. You used psychotherapy
According to Sara Fader, founder of the Stigma Fighters organization, supporting a person with mental ailments, meetings With a good psychotherapist, they can help us in harmony with their emotions. And this, in turn, means that we will be able to better recognize the emotions that other people experience.
4. You never “sweeten”
Again, this feature does not seem to match emotionally intelligent people. After all, they should strive for others to feel good. Not really.
“Emotional intelligence is the ability to recognize emotions in other people, but this does not mean that we should avoid telling the truth or reach for various tricks to soften a message. Emotionally intelligent people know how important it is, that even the difficult messages reach people” – believes Mark Murray.
“Emotional intelligence is the ability to recognize emotions in other people, but this does not mean that we should avoid telling the truth.”
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5. You are not an forever joyful person or a special optimist/optimist
This point is definitely the most controversial. In circulation There is a lot of disinformation about emotional intelligence. But as Dr. John D. Mayer explains in “Psychology Today” she is not tantamount to being a nice or nice person. It is also not tantamount to being an optimist, a happy, calm or motivated person.
It means nothing less than control over your own emotions and emotions of others.
Note from the publisher: The above article was originally published in November 2016 and was updated.
