Impose limits and rules on children! If they keep away from upsets and frustrations, they will be unprepared for real life
The child's tears and frustrations can sometimes prevent us from making the best decisions for him and the family. PHOTO: Shutterstock
One of the great fears of parents today is not to traumatize their children. And this fear prevents them from assuming the role of guides and pushes them towards the desire to build “friendship” relationships with children. Behind this attitude is nothing but the masked fear of entering and remaining in the role of parent. A fear that does no one any good.
I often see parents who are afraid to impose rules on their children about screen time, sweets, toy money, routines and sleep schedules. They also avoid imposing rules about what is acceptable and not acceptable in interactions between children and other people (for example, I do not set limits when children speak badly or disturb people at a restaurant).
As for parents of teenagers, if boundaries have not been set since childhood, it becomes much more difficult to implement them now. I'm referring to rules about involvement in household responsibilities, online and offline safety, time to return home, and time management (including screen limits).
The power to make unpopular decisions
A conscious parent does not make it his goal to always please the child and protect him from any possible upset. A conscious parent is one who has the courage to make unpopular decisions, to uphold decisions that provoke vehement protests and intense emotional displays from the child, and who can stand their ground even when hearing lines such as “I hate you, you're the worst parent in the world!”.
Maturity in parenting involves resisting such rejection and the temptation to trade healthy decisions for the child for popular and agreeable ones.
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