Accused of sexual assault, the writer Vasile Ernu apologizes, but not to the woman who says she was kissed without consent: “I am aware that there were other occasions when I violated not only rules, but I violated some personal limits”

After a researcher accused the writer that 6-7 years ago, on an evening when he was no longer able to offer “consent”, the man “began to kiss me, insist”, Ernu comes with an answer. It does not recognize abuse of it. “For what I did not do, I have no reason to regret.” Ernu, however, recognizes that he has violated the rules in other cases.

“Last days, a Facebook post has appeared taken over by many people in which I am suspected of abuse. The astonishment was great, as well as the impact, so I took a few days to reflect. In the spirit of truth and debt I come with an answer. I start by saying that this message is not a reply meant to generate other replicas. This would only throw us into the mechanism of promoting hatred, violence and immense hypocrisy. Seven years old is a long period for such accusations, but this does not change the facts retroactively and does not delete any responsibility, “writes in a Facebook post, the writer Vasile Ernu, 54, author of successful volumes such as” born in the USSR “or” The wild children.

In the post entitled “Confession in time of crisis” and published on Saturday, Ernu says he knows the author of the initial accusation and that he is innocent. Moreover, Ernu reproaches his silence so far.

“” I would like to clarify the accusations that are brought to me: I and the author of the post have known each other for many years, I was part of the same circles, we saw each other at various meetings, at parties, we discussed. For this reason, for all this period of seven years, I did not run, I did not hide, It turns into a story of abuse after seven years. I really do not know the cause. If it would be an area of ​​justice I would plead innocent, of course. But not in the sense that they run away from responsibility or hide the blame. I come from a deep religious culture of guilt, dog and forgiveness. I believe them fundamental. For what I didn't do, I have no reason to regret, ”writes Ernu.

Apologizes for other situations

However, the writer and the publicist say that there were other occasions when he exceeded the limit. Especially since he accused the researcher in the post that became viral was not the only one. And other voices have reproached the last days the same time of behavior. And the founder of the sexual education site “Sex VS Barza” Adriana Radu stated, in the past, in an interview with journalist Dragoș Pătraru: “I know from my colleagues that Vasile Ernu” Pubes Slinos Girls at parties “.

“But I ask for forgiveness for any gesture with which, then or now, I hurt someone. I am aware that there were other occasions when I violated not only rules, but I violated some personal limits. For each of these mistakes I am sorry and I assure you here to answer each person to whom I have been wrong. The mistake made or in allowable, ”he writes.

What the researcher had accused him in a Facebook post in which he did not give his name, but offered clues

“” 6-7 years ago I was in a very dark place. And in that darkness, I sought consolation in the vices. Sometimes too much. During that period, a man who claimed to be a comrade, leftist, intellectually concerned about the marginals … On my day, at his bar, I even defended him because I gave me the place, I gave it to me. drunk ”. In another evening, I was no longer able to offer consent. He began to kiss me, insist. In others, people actually took him from me, because he was still pulling me to go home. In others I paid his taxi, just to leave. But one morning I woke up in his apartment. I didn't know how I got there. I didn't know how to leave. I went out the door quickly, and a neighbor greet me with a wide smile, believing I was his wife. It was the lowest point in my life. I regret everything. But sometimes it is difficult to regret something you don't even remember, ”he writes.

“I read enough stories to know that it is not my fault”

The woman continued her testimony: “I read enough stories to know that it is not my fault. And yet, after that episode, he was not gone. He returned several times. Finally I left the circle of friends around him. But then I heard, on TV, in a show, how to talk about the woman. kissed and touches them without consent.

Another friend told in a group that she happened something like. When things started to come to the surface, he wrote to me. He wanted to know if I said something. The message was clear: he did not want to repair, he wanted to make sure that I shut up. In 2019 he wrote to me that he “took a guy by taxi and was given to it” and that he would now be “on the black list of feminists”. Of course, it wasn't me, that I paid his taxis to get rid of him. That he does not remember, but that “he is not holy, neither abusive”, and that he has sleepless nights. I asked no second what I feel. Only if he “has to bring apologized”, “he said.