Unusual trend: brides who cannot cover their expenses are looking for weddings on the Internet. “We did not come to us 30” obligations “

More and more future marriages are calling for strangers to complete their wedding guest list after realizing that they cannot meet the conditions of the event room.

The honoring of the wedding invitations has become a chore for Romanians – photo: illustrative/pixabay

From an event that could ensure the bride and groom at the end, the wedding became one with great emotions. An unusual trend can be found on the Internet, where future brides try to complete their wedding list even with unknown persons, so as to meet the requirements of the event room. We reach such situations, confess the brides, because the people on the initial list decline the invitation, often for economic reasons, participating in such an event becoming in recent years an expense that few allow.

“Do you have nowhere to break your slabs? Do you want to beat any record? Are you isolated?”

“We are a young couple and this summer we are going to make the religious marriage, on August 23, 2025, an extremely special moment for us, which we expect with emotion and joy. Unfortunately, lately, several people who had initially confirmed the presence at the wedding have changed their minds, which took us a little by surprise. If there are couples in the group that would like to reach such an event and who would like to be with us on our day, we would be honest and grateful. We promise a beautiful atmosphere, good music, tasty food, good will and many moments of soul. We want a warm day, in which people feel good and go home with a smile on their lips. And of course, we would be a real pleasure to participate in your events, if you will have a wedding, baptism or another special occasion in the future ”, It is such a message, in which the bride also indicates the locality.

In another announcement, future brides give details about the context in which they have come to make such invitations, but also about costs, indicating how much the “gift” should be raised to cover “a part” of costs.

“Hi, good people!

My husband and I are preparing for a very special moment of our lives: our wedding, which will take place on August 16, 2025, in Bucharest.

With all sincerity, we made our list of guests and confirmations and realized that we are less than we initially considered. This means that we will remain with menus already paid and unoccupied places. So we thought about opening the circle a little to beautiful people, with good will and who want to have fun.

If you do not have any plans on the weekend with St. Marie and you feel like you want fun, dance, good food and good will, we get you with open arms. I mention that we have no claims for but or other gifts, it is sufficient if you can pay part of the menu, a maximum 300-350 lei per person. We want to meet more good people and keep in touch. And something nice to come out.

I would like to point out that we are some sociable young people and categorically we will understand each other wonderfully.

If you feel that you resonate with our invitation, give us a sign ”is another ad.

Other marriages launch the invitation from the seaside, stating that they can ensure, if necessary, accommodation.

Invitations of this kind also come from Italy.

“Dear friends,

We are pleased to share a special news! We, a mixed couple consisting of me, an Orthodox Romanian, and he, an Italian Catholic, we want to get married on September 26, 2026 in Pisa, Tuscany. We are looking for loved ones who will be with us at both the Orthodox and civilian religious ceremony.

We have no financial requirements, but we just want to build a sincere and sustainable friendship.

If you are interested in being part of this beautiful journey please contact us. We appreciate each support and we can hardly wait to celebrate this special moment together! yourself Thank you!”, Is the announcement.

Absolutely unexpected, on the Facebook group with almost 40,000 members also appears an announcement from young people willing to participate in such events.

“We are a young couple, eager to participate in weddings/baptisms as guests, or maybe even godfather. We are looking for events only in Bucharest (maximum 20 km away from Bucharest). I'm waiting for your message! I kiss you, thank you! “, Shows in the ad.” Do you have nowhere to break your shampons? Do you want to beat any record? Are you isolated? is one of the comments received as an answer.

Many of those who saw such guests have shown skeptics about the seriousness of those who make such a call and even noted that they “multiply”. But the explanation came quickly: they were inspired by each other, because the need to cover their costs is real.

“They no longer allow people to live daily, the more events”

Each such announcement seems to open the wounds of other young people who have gone through similar situations. “And we made the wedding in Italy and the contract was for 100 people, with 90 €. No 40 people were presented ”, a testimony quickly spreads. “This is exactly how we paid. From 60, then there were 45, and from 45 I was 30 with a band”, He tells another Internet user.

“Many wedding halls impose a certain number of people. We made a wedding on Sunday and had a minimum of 150. If it was Saturday, they were 200. It gives you home the remaining food. But not the one that was removed in the room. Only the one who did not leave the kitchen. Everyone who confirmed to us came to us but were who came later or left earlier and did not take all kinds to the room. What remained in the kitchen, I received home ”, reported another person.

“We order menus 2-3 weeks before the wedding, with 2 months it seems crazy. They are guests who confirm you on the date you have passed on the guests ”reply other young people.

“Unfortunately, when you do the wedding you can expect absolutely everything from anyone and sometimes even from whom you do not expect. We are also stony, because on the wedding day one of the bridesmaids decided not to come. And we were imposed a minimum number of people, that is 100, but fortunately for us we had 120 people. We had huge emotions, because in us, 9 years ago when we got married, we had a menu of 120 euros. We relaxed when we saw that more than the number on the contract came and we were totally relaxed when we saw that we covered our menus and that we were left with some money, as well as to cover the other wedding expenses. Unfortunately, people are often serious. I wish you the world to come and not have to pay the menus out of pocket! Wonderful wedding to have! ”, He manifests his support for other young people.

“We made the wedding and gave us the room only if we have 100 people. The man does not come, we paid € 9,000 € ”, Confirmed another Internet use how the relationship with the restaurant goes.

“I don't know what's going on, it's sad. And we have a wedding on August 24 and from 140 we stay with 50, so I don't wonder anything ”, Another answer is coming.

Despite the support messages, those who help them in the requested way do not exist. In some comments, the long distance is invoked, in others, an analysis is simply done and it is concluded that participating in a wedding has become too much expense, so that there is almost no place for pleasure.

“They no longer allow people to live daily, the more events. We had the wedding 3 years ago and since then we have heard many couples who have not been guests. We did not come to us 30 “obligations”, although I invited them because they were a family. We wanted to have a maximum of 100 people and it was so it was … I hope you have the wedding as you dreamed, “I answer people who feel the need to explain the situation.suggests another commentator.

“We are in the same situation, and with the date, and with invitations. If I didn't have the wedding at once, we would have come with love. Stone house and much happiness! ”there is another message of support.

“It is the reality for a few years. I gave up doing the wedding or baptism with the room, music and all the silence just not to burden anyone. I would have thought The world takes it hard, it does not allow it to go to a wedding because of the big expenses, not for the brides, but for the preparations for presence: costume, footwear, makeup, hairdresser, all exaggerated compared to monthly salaries!makes someone else another analysis.

Other people say they had a dream wedding and, even though they were not left with money, they were happy to happen on their wedding day. “I lived that day really what I wanted. I am very happy with the decision taken and, yes, I go to many weddings a year, I had weddings in a month and I went on vacation, it is Fain-Fain to be part of someone's story. So everything is about how you see things and what expectations you have ”, There are other opinions.

Other people confess that they have received invitations to weddings where costs are “Much over the monthly income of an ordinary man”. “When you receive such an invitation in these times it is a burden, not a joy. If the simpler, day-to-day parties were to be made and all kinds of staples, more people would go with them,” another commentator seems convinced.

On other groups, the posts about the amounts that are raised today “the gift” at a wedding also arouses discussions, the most vehement against the “exaggerated” amounts that are placed for marriages in the envelope being the Romanians who have been living abroad for a long time and who say that the foreigners are particularly surprised when they find out what they are in Romania.