The involved fathers have happier children and away from trouble. Psychotherapist: “In the case of adolescents who consume substances, the father is very little involved or even absent”

Like mothers, fathers are pillars in developing children's emotional well -being. Where the father does not assume the role of parent involved the consequences are important and dramatic: from emotional disorders such as anxiety and depression to children, to the consumption of psychotropic substances.

Anyone can have a child, but being a father means something else. The involvement and influence of the fathers on the health and development of their children have grown in countless ways, in the last decade, especially, and have been studied especially. And the role of pediatric doctors in working with fathers has grown properly in importance, the study of the American Academy of Pediatrics – AAP – shows Fathers' Roles in the Care and Development of Their Children: The Role of Pediatricians – the role of the fathers in the care and development of their own children: the role of the pediatrician.

An essential attachment to the family

The active involvement of the fathers has a positive impact on the children, but also on the life partner, according to the same source. “Studies have demonstrated for many years the beneficial role of the father's involvement, the importance of the father's attachment and his contribution from the prenatal period to the adolescence,” emphasizes psychologist Mihai Copăceanu.

A recent research in Switzerland has shown that there is a significant connection between the high involvement of the father and the adaptive emotional regulation of children, for example in the early childhood, in the first 5 years of life, adds the specialist.

“The research concluded that the involvement of the father, both in quantitative and qualitative terms, affects the development of the child. The attachment between father and child is essential for the development, mental health and the subsequent well -being of a child. For example, increasing the self -efficacy of the fathers is correlated with the decrease of the health difficulties, and in the last years of the child, Classic parental are effective for improving children's problems, but so far only mothers have been the main beneficiaries of such programs;

“Under 5% of the fathers initiate discussions with the psychologist”

It is very easy to find the lack of involvement of the fathers and their passivity, it draws attention to the psychotherapist: “Let us think that the preparation during the pregnancy is almost exclusively the mother's task, immediately after birth, the visits to the pediatric doctor, the father takes the mother, but he often stays in the room or in the room. In the mandatory education, mothers are involved in 90% of cases ”.

From an educational point of view and health care, stresses Mihai Copăceanu, we find that, in most cases, children with behavioral disorders: “And in recent years, in the case of adolescents with substantial consumption disorders, the father is very implicated or even absent. Australly not physically, from the house, from the point of view, from the point of view, from the point of view. The involvement increases as a result of my recommendations ”, points out the psychotherapist psychologist.

However, it is important for fathers to get involved in raising and educating children. Because, says Copăceanu, “by their role, fathers, in the first years of life, encourage healthy risks to children, prepare children to defend themselves and arouse their curiosity about new opportunities.”

This relationship of activation through provocative parental behaviors develops through physical play with children. “And it has been shown that those children are less likely to develop mental health symptoms, such as anxiety, in early childhood. This demonstrates the unique influence of the fathers actively involved on the results in the mental health of children,” explains the psychotherapist.

Involvement is necessary not only when problems arise

According to the statistical data contained in the study Fathers' Involvement with their Children: United States, 2006–2010 – The involvement of fathers in the lives of their children: the United States, 2006-2010, published by the CDC, the contributions made by the fathers to the raising and education of the children in many directions, starting from higher chances of success during the academic and to a lower risk of delinquency and consumption of substances.
“The fathers present in the life of the child through a combination of positive involvement activities, through positive parental behaviors (heat, receptivity and control), through indirect care and constant monitoring of their child's needs have this unique role to contribute to the healthy development of the child,” Mihai Copăceanu synthesizes.

Unfortunately, says the psychotherapist, today we are witnessing situations – and not few – in which mothers are involved exclusively in the education of children and who reach exhaustion: “As specialists, we have the obligation to request and encourage the involvement of fathers throughout the educational, not only when certain problems appear,” concludes Mihai.

Dads are model for both girls and boys but in different ways

Dads are taken as models both sons and daughters, even if not in the same way. As human beings, we grow up imitating the behavior of those around us. Girls depend on their fathers for safety and emotional support. A father is the one who shows his daughter who means a healthy relationship with a man. If a father is loving and gentle, his daughter will look for these qualities to her future life partner. If a father is strong and brave, she will closely relate to men of the same character.

Unlike girls, who shape their relationships with others based on their father's character, boys are molded according to their father's character, according to Healthychildren.org.

Studies have shown that when fathers are affectionate and supportive, this greatly affects the cognitive and social development of a child. It also instills a general feeling of well -being and self -confidence. If a father is caring and treats people with respect, the boy will grow the same.

When the father is absent, the son looks at other masculine figures to establish the “rules” on how to behave and survive in the world.

Dads also influence how an adult child will have relationships with other people. Friends, lovers and wives/wives will be chosen according to how the child perceived the meaning of his relationship with his father.

In conclusion, when we wonder who is best: the mother or father, the answer is that both parents have their own role in raising and educating children, and the importance of each one comes from the fact that, in some respects, it is different.