It is worth remembering that for everyone success is something different. It is similar with happiness. The measure of this, Did we achieve bothwe can only be ourselves.
As Jeff Haden from Inc. explains, If we are constantly comparing ourselves to others, we may feel less and less satisfied. All the more so when we choose someone who is successful on a completely different scale. For example, if we are entrepreneurs and compare ourselves to Richard Branson, then our achievements may seem negligible to us.
This is a problem with comparing – There will always be someone who suffered in our opinion greater success. That's why Jeff Haden advises you to focus on himself. It can be difficult if the years of comparison to others have done their job and we lost our own scale of happiness and success. It may be helpful to answer the following questions:
1. Do I have close friends?
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Real Friends we can always count on and with which we can talk about everything are rare.
This is why, If you managed to gather 2 or 3 really loved ones around you, you can consider yourself lucky. This is a real success that gives you not only social and emotional benefits, but also health. And friendships at work still have the advantages of a different type …
2. Can I decide who I have around me?
Some people have colleagues who bring them crazy. Others have clients who cannot bear or friends who are unable to listen to.
However, to people who have been successful, this problem is strange? Why? Because we finally choose who is around us, because of how we are. Successful people attract people success, hard -working people attract hard -working people e.t.c.
If the people you have around you are the people you want to have around you, it means that you have been successful.
3. Do I have enough money to do what I want?
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It is not that you are a billionaire. It is enough You no longer have to live from payment to payment and from time to time, when you want it, you can simply get a certain amount from your account and do what you want with it – Invest, go on vacation, give a charity.
If this stage is still ahead of you, remember that The key to it is to learn how Do not spend everything you earn.
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4. Do I perceive failures as a future teaching?
We have heard since childhood that Making mistakes is the best way to learn something. Despite this, many of us can't get up after a failure.
It is worth remembering that absolutely Everyone who was successful once fell and got up. If you derive learning from every failure, you can avoid repeating it and, above all, admit it, it means that you are a man of success.
5. Can I share?
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People who have been successful usually got rid of greed and are happy to share. Not necessarily only material goods – it is also about knowledge, ideas and help.
6. Can I share my victory?
Sometimes, even if we have done a significant part of the work, we have to share the glory with someone else. At the moment when he stops getting angry and We can enjoy the fact that we succeeded, not pay attention to who was more praisedwe can conclude that we have achieved real success.
7. Do I know what my real goal is?
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Success itself is rarely a goal. Its achievement is a side effect of getting towards something, which is the meaning of all our actions.
If you have found a goal, you have something that inspires you, makes you want to get up in the morning. You have a passion and you can infect others with it. This means that You have already been successful, regardless of how much you earn and what others think about it.
Note from the publisher: The above article was originally published in October 2017 and was updated.
