I support teenagers professionally. Here are five lessons that a parent should give the child before studying

For many years I worked at Wall Street as a property advisor, but my true passion was the so -called Family management, i.e. in my case, helping wealthy families to formulate their values ​​and rules. For four decades I supported them in creating special family constitutions. They were based on several pillars: family, faith, friends, physical condition, finance, joy of life and philanthropy.

Sounds serious, but such a constitution may contain small principles that reflect the values ​​of a given family. In my home, for example, there is a rule that we always take and receive a family member from the airport. It's a simple way to show care and be support for each other.

Today I am 67 years old (or, as I like to speak, I am Barry, version 6.7) and I work with young people aged 14 to 30 on their personal and professional development. I use the concept of seven pillars, but I also know that there are specific lessons that every young person should leave the house.

Here are five of them, which every parent should pass on to their child before studying:

Leaving the comfort zone

Going outside your own comfort zone requires courage, and courage builds confidence. This is a key feature, both in personal and professional life.

I encourage every mentee to create his dream board. These are 20 images of things that inspire him and give him strength. One of them must present an unreal goal – something that seems so great that it is difficult to imagine. It is the first step to the courage and large -scale thinking.

Everyone is setting their boards as a block of locking on the phone. Me too. I have photos related to books, healthy food, discipline and fitness. Every look at the screen reminds me what I want.

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Exercise to be a person who takes the first step

Leaders must feel at ease with, well, being guides, and therefore I encourage you to practice it in everyday situations. Teach the child to take the initiative: he reached out to the embrace, told the first “good morning” to the teacher or suggested pressing the button in the elevator for other passengers. Over time, these small acts shape the leader's attitude.

Be valuable to others

Supporting others is the best way to your own success. This value can be understood in three ways: materially, emotionally and spiritually. Young people, even if they do not have money, can give others emotional or spiritual support.

In other words: teach a child to be more interested in other than herself. Let him ask questions, recommend a book to someone, he will be a person to whom others willingly turn to.

Deliberately exceed expectations

When you exceed your expectations, people remember it. And if you do it deliberately, you are impressive. I talk about it as “creating lightning”.

When my children were younger and someone visited our house, they asked for the keys and vacuuming the car to the guest. Such a gesture is remembered. But lightning does not have to be spectacular, Just call your grandmother with wishes or write a hand -made card.

Build good habits step by step

I work with young people for a year. It takes about 60-90 days to develop one habit, so during the year we are working on four new habits of high efficiency. One at once not to overwhelm. But four per year is a real change.

Start with simple things: let the child make a bed every day or always clean after dinner from a table. Over time, these little gestures make a difference. Both for him and for you as a family.

True success is creating values ​​for others and the ability to stand out. Thanks to these lessons, your child can go into adulthood with a good base, no matter what success will be to him.

The above text is a translation with American Business Insider edition