Miruna Ioani (and blondes think): “To accept help, you need to get your knife to the bone. With two useless breasts, the role of the father is very important”
Miruna Ioani, along with his two sons: Victor (6 years) and Tudor (9 years). Photo: Family Archive
The name of Miruna Ioani (38 years old) is almost synonymous with the phrase “and the blondes think”, as she called her blog launched 18 years ago. Professional dentist, Victor's mother (6 years old) and Tudor (9 years old), the wife of neurosurgeon Horațiu Ioani, Miruna formed a real community on social media channels, where she tells with vulnerability and bypass about what the life of a parent, unbelievable, with great joys, but also with great guilt.
It is one of the voices supported the normalization of breastfeeding (by law) and which has constantly pleading for a “common sense” parenting style, “imperfect”, without “shaming” to mothers. For several years, Miruna has created the SisteroD Society community, a space where women learn to support each other, avoid judgments and comparisons, ask for (and offer) real support when they feel that they are too pressed for the worries with the parental life.
In the interview that we gave us, Miruna Ioane reveals to us what life looks like with the three men (two children and an adult) in her life, how she brings to the “mental load” of a family and how she learned to ask for help. Miruna talks about authenticity online, but also in her own life. About how hard – and how liberating – it can be to give up the “perfect mother” mask and raise your children “by heart”, not more and more difficult to reach.
What does “common sense” mean to you and how does it differ from the parenting “after the manual”?
I would not abolish the “manual” parenting, I got a lot of inspiration from there. I can't grow my boys as my whole grew, and some different things were useful to me. In the sense that I received a direction, for example “you can be a good parent and when the child is dissatisfied” or “two things can be true at the same time: I do not want to play and I love my child.”
But do you know that I learned a parenting book? The one of Laura Markham, with happy brothers, is a part with scenarios and dialogues – on the way! To imagine how desperate I was. Well, I didn't use anything. Why? It wouldn't be the book of guilt, but my children never replied as in her scenario. Error gave me: 404 directly. However, after we determine that we do not hit the children and we do not punish them, I think it is good not to grow them after the manual, but by the sense. Whether it is good or not, it remains to be seen, but I always said: let's not grow behind books, but by our heart. It's the most authentic way.
Read the continuation of the article HERE.
