“That's when I chose to shut down my social media”

Florinel Coman's wife posted a manifest message on Instagram where she explained the difficulties she encountered in the last 6 months and about her journey to self-knowledge.

Ioana Coman, manifest message on social networks about self-knowledge: “I simply couldn't speak anymore”

“6 months without Instagram, during which time I constantly received the same question: where I disappeared, if I'm pregnant or if I'm preparing a surprise. I am neither pregnant nor have I prepared any surprise. I simply needed to come back to myself.

2025 was, for me, an extremely intense year, as I think it was for many people. A year that put me in front of many challenges: some I managed, others in which I feel lost. But beyond good or bad, it was a year that forced me to see myself more clearly than I ever did.

Towards the end of 2025, I felt a great need for retreat, for silence, for space where I could understand what was happening to me. I went through states I honestly didn't think I would ever experience: anxiety, fears I didn't even know I had, and a general confusion where I no longer understood life, direction, and most of all, what I was supposed to do.

I was constantly running away from myself and my emotions. I was listening non-stop to podcasts, information… but actually it was too much noise. From the outside it looked like I was doing well, but inside I was drifting further and further away from myself.

That's when I chose to shut down my social media. I couldn't find myself in what I was posting. I felt that everything had become fake, tailored to what was required. Without realizing it, I had come to put constant pressure on myself to be a certain way, to deliver a certain way.

During that retreat, after a few weeks of stillness and presence, I began to understand more deeply the idea of ​​mirroring: that what I experience on the outside very clearly reflects my inside. And my insides were exactly what I saw: chaos, uncertainty, criticism.

I continued to search for answers, to listen, to understand, to integrate. There were moments when I felt that everything became clear, that life could be much simpler… until other challenges came, harder, and again something broke from my understanding“, was the first part of Ioana's message.

Ioana Coman: “An intense moment was at Christmas, when I lost my voice. I simply couldn't speak anymore”

The message continued through stories.

“An intense moment was at Christmas when I became speechless. I just couldn't speak. That's when I realized how sensitive my body had become and how quickly it reacted to everything I felt.

I stopped again and reanalyzed the whole thing. I felt that I could no longer continue without setting firm internal benchmarks: values, limits and assumed directions. To define clearly who I am and who I choose to be, not depending on the context or the people around me, but depending on me.

Because, until then, even though I had principles, I allowed myself to be influenced. Not from a lack of confidence, but from the need to be accepted, to be liked by everyone, not to disturb.

I kind of knew what I had to do, but I hadn't fully acted. I had outlined a direction in my mind, but I hadn't consciously assumed it.

And the beginning of 2026 did not come quietly, but with an intensification of everything that was not clear in me. Every ignored need, every unspoken boundary, every postponed choice resurfaced through contexts and people. It was as if life was telling me very clearly: what you did not understand, you will relive until you choose differently.

I returned to Romania, and the people and situations around me reflected exactly what was not stable in me. Then I understood that I had to be clearer, firmer. That I can no longer build my life trying to please everyone while I lose myself.

It was the moment when I realized that my path could no longer be about the outside. That I have to find my balance within myself, to choose myself consciously, without compromises made out of fear or the need for validation.

And luckily, after all these stages, I was able to refocus. Not perfect, not “ready”, but enough to understand what all these experiences wanted to teach me.

Because recovery is not a linear path. It comes with falls and comebacks, with moments when you feel like you're lost again… and then, slowly, you gather yourself,” Ioana Coman wrote on Instagram.

• Florinel Coman and Ioana Timofeciuc got married in June of 2025. Together they have a daughter named Kasia. The two were engaged since 2023. The godfather of the two was Mirel Rădoi, the new coach of FCSB.